A few years back, I was at a holiday party and feeling a little tipsy, I decided to share a study I'd read on the frequency that married couples have sex.
After declaring the stats, I took an informal poll to see how the group shook out compared to the literature.
The wine made me brave and the feedback was both hysterical and exactly what I expected (well, except for a close friend who was having some problems with his math, but we forgave him).
The study purports that married people have sex about once a week. It also claims that "single people in monogamous relationships" have double to triple the amount of sex, especially those living in sin.
Why is that?
What happens when we get married? Do we take each other for granted? Do we get bored? Do we miss the newness? Are we tired? Is it tough juggling all of the demands of career, parenthood, and marital intimacy?
Take stock of your own sex life. How's it treating you? Do you surpass the once a week quota? If so, is it just with boring ass mission style or are you getting nasty? Just a question.
I tend to think that we get comfortable and then get lazy. It's easy to dismiss the person that we poop in front of (oh, you don't do that?), that we pay bills with and ultimately, that knows us better than we know ourselves.
So, what's your homework? Make this summer the one where you get a little nutty (literally). Have fun. Do something unexpected. Wouldn't the world be a better place if we were all having more sex?